Where did all the good men go? [A Rant]

One of the more commonly repeated opinion pieces rearing its ugly visage in the various public open sewers which constitute our mainstream media is the headline “where have all the good men gone”.

This is a stunningly stupid question, asked repeatedly in endless variations.

• Huffpo : Why is the marriage rate so low?
• http://www.thefrisky.com/2009-09-23/mind-of-man-where-all-the-good-guys-are/
• http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704409004576146321725889448.html

There's a number of screamingly obvious answers to this, which despite the glaring, blatant nature of those answers, seem elusive to the empty headed animal food trough wipers bleating their repetition of where have all the good men gone. Just to get it out of the way, Im going state the obvious.

What happened to all the good men is the women asking that inane question. Women go through their lives surrounded by men they cant see, because these men by being kind, polite, helpful, friendly and non frightening and consequently don't trigger feminine instinctive attraction to assholes, psychopaths, criminals, and various unreconstructed cavemen. Asking why cant you find a decent guy while the decent guy is standing right next to you, or carrying your groceries, well, shit, do you need me to draw you a picture?

A more interesting answer to the question of where have all the good men gone is another question.

Just exactly how do we define good in this equation?

What is it that women want?

It's a long list: but my admittedly incomplete understanding is that what women want is a creature of approximate man shape, broad shoulders, tall, well dressed, with a nice car, a high figure salary, good teeth and cool hair, and all the alpha characteristics to make him a conquerer and leader of men. Except he also needs to bow and scrape and be the selfless self sacrificing lapdog to his woman, except when he's supposed to be dominant, but not too dominant, and also read her mind, but only when hes supposed to, but remain confused and in need of feminine guidance at other times. And a great big cock.

I could go on, but I think you get the picture.
It should be fairly obvious that trying to conform to this list would be both exhausting and futile. Even switching around the criteria I've provided as examples, for other stupider criteria, some variation of a list like this is constantly implied in women's magazines, daytime talk shows, soap operas, romantic comedies, self help books, and everywhere else flattering women can earn somebody a buck.

This isn't even the problem. The problem, ladies, yes, you ladies asking where the all the good men went, the problem, or at least an important part of it is the combination of our society's increasing marginalization and criminalization of male identity, and your ongoing silence. Well, silence isn't quite right, women are now, and have been continuously vocal for the last half century, loudly and repeatedly making it abundantly clear that as men, we're worthless, we're rapists, we're your oppressors, we're violent, we're un-feeling – ill tell you that one hurts, lets see, what else, that we're a bunch of retrograde, infantile, stupid, inferior, lesser humans. We, as stupid inferior men also notice that the inherent internal inconsistency in this public narrative does nothing to diminish the force and volume of the message.

Strangely, from the vast majority of the demographic comprising 65% of the electorate and spending 65% of disposable income world wide – not much besides accusation, and to state it plainly, hatred.

One thing its important to understand, is that even accepting that men as a demographic are indeed stupid enough to throw rocks at – the accusatory and increasingly violent public narrative is penetrating past the thick skulls of men, and registering on the fragments of brain not already devoted to sports, porn, and cheese covered wacky fries.

Did I mention violence? Thats another thing, our society, it seems has decided in its collective mind that violence perpetrated against men is not only totally acceptable, when the person performing that violence is female, well our society, as reflected in the courts as well as our entertainment media thinks it's downright funny.

Kicking a man in the balls is a staple of visual comedy. Kicking a woman in the crotch? Nope, thats just assault. How about sexual dismemberment – you know, drug a man, tie him up, wait for him to wake up, and then cut his dick off with a knife and destroy the severed organ in a garbage disposal.

Day time TV with female hosts and a female audience thinks mutilation is funny. As long as the victim is male, of course.

Men, in their stupidity, their failure to grow up, unwillingness to commit to a relationship, and their increasing refusal to settle down like a good little disposable provider and utility are clearly to blame, and surely it has nothing to do with our culture's and women within our culture's increasing toxicity , hatred, and legally and socially accepted violence towards men.

Yes, men are at fault, where have all the good men gone?

They're right where they've always been. It's just that increasing numbers of them are waking up to the reality that they aren't teated by convention or by law as human beings, and as a consequence they don't want to talk to you.

Most don't even care to explain why.